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How to Achieve your Goals?

 

To help you achieve goals in NLP way, we have to engage our unconscious mind. If we'll be able to program our unconscious part of the mind toward success, it will change the behavior that will bring us to where we want to go.

This is different in usual goal setting because no matter how careful we are in crafting our plans, the unconscious part of our mind can get in our way of achieving our goals if not properly trained.

First of all, we have to understand that our unconscious mind doesn't accept negative instruction. So, to influence our minds, we have to state our goals in a positive way. So, as an example, instead of saying I don't want to pay rent anymore, you can say that I want to buy my own house.

The second is that we have to be specific with our goals. The more specific our instruction at our unconscious mind, the more specific our mind in getting results. Going back to our example, you can be more specific by saying that you want a big house with three bedrooms.

Third, you have to define your goals by imagining the outcome using your senses. The term for senses in NLP is modalities when you are using the word in terms of how you perceive the world around you. Imagine how you feel when you are in a big house. What can you see? What can you hear? What are you doing? Imagine what you are doing as you wake up in the morning. As you sit on the sofa in your big living room. How does it feel? In this step, we are engaging the unconscious part of our mind. If we're able to imagine the outcome that we want in our mind's eye, we can program our unconscious part of our mind. The experience we can create by imagining will be assumed by our unconscious mind to be true.

The fourth step is to break down goals into smaller parts. This technique in NLP is called chunking down. How are you going to achieve your goal? What will be the steps? What are the things that you are going to change so that you can move from being where you are right now to where you want to be From the third step, you may imagine stepping back a year before, then two years before, then three years before, going back to the present, identifying steps on how you are able to achieve the future outcome. This will become your basis for the plan of action.

The fifth step is to take action. Nothing will really happen unless you do something. Your plan of action can be on a monthly basis or whatever you feel comfortable with you.

The last step is to monitor and adjust. Monitor if you are getting closer to your goal. Use your modalities. How do you feel? What is your sensory experience? Are you getting there or are you moving away? Then do the necessary adjustments.

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Author: Kristian B. Jayme, mIGNLP is a Certified NLP Practitioner by the International Guild of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. He is also a Certified NLP Master Practitioner by The Academy of Modern, Applied Psychology.


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