NLP Concepts

How is your marriage? What was your reason that you get married? If you're getting married, what is your reason that you want to get married? Take some time to think about this, then read on. Is your reason is that you want your needs to get filled? There may be voids in your life that you want to get filled. Or could it be that you want to give yourself to someone with the purpose of building a strong and healthy relationship? Notice the difference. The first one is intended to focus on self while the other one is focused on your partner. Just recently, my wife and I attended a marriage seminar with lots of reflective questions that were discussed in breakout sessions. There are many NLP principles that I find relevant in the context of marriage. I will discuss the top three most important principles in this article. First of all, love, in the context of marriage, can be defined as a personal commitment to another individual. Why commitment? Most people defined love as a romantic...

This discussion is one of the most powerful concepts of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). This can be life-changing if applied to oneself. Concrete authority relies on recognition from another person or an organization that is well known in the field of practice. It is formal and structured. This may come in a form of certification after undergoing training or completing a course. On the other hand, abstract authority is attained by taking responsibility for a particular outcome by ensuring the success of a particular endeavor. To give you an example, I observed that most successful people, referring to self-made millionaires or tycoons, rely heavily on abstract authority. Many of them are college drop-outs but one day decided to start a business and didn't give up in the process of accumulating wealth. The problem with our educational system is that most curriculums are geared toward becoming an employee. It is not bad, but it limits the capacity of individuals to achieve more...

The fundamental tenet of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is being responsible for one's own actions and thoughts and so is the outcome. Positive action yields positive results. This is different from the Law of Attraction. You cannot achieve results by thinking about it while doing nothing. It is just daydreaming. You may think, however, that there are things in life that we don’t have control of, that is no longer our responsibility. As Lucille Ball said, “responsibility is the ability to respond.” This is a paradigm shift from being a victim of circumstances to taking charge of one’s life. This reminds me of the Parable of Talents as found in the Bible in the fifth chapter of the Book of Matthew. Each of us was given figurative talents (gifts, abilities, skills, resources, ideas, etc.) at the end of our lives, when we face God he will ask what you did with your talents. I believe it encompasses everything, as each of us has a unique purpose in life, we also have corresponding...